The Heart of Desire Discrepancy:
Clinical Pivots
Watch Martha roleplay in this unique
video training series
Have you ever wondered why it's so hard to get traction with significant desire impasses?
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With polarized desire discrepancies, therapists often miss important therapeutic opportunities early in treatment. I want to help you get better results with less effort.
Watch me demonstrate my methods in a realistic roleplayed case. I’ll show you exactly how I join with both the lower and higher desire partners — honoring their differences while challenging them both, and helping them chart a new course together.
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This is a one-of-a-kind training; you'll see exactly how I get traction so you can too.
What you get:
4-part video series:
In a series of bite-sized videos, I'll share four common pitfalls that therapists face when working with desire discrepancy — and what you can do instead.
> Discover THE most common misconception about desire discrepancy (Spoiler: it's something most of us were taught in therapy school — and it's dead wrong)
> Learn an essential early-treatment question that many therapists miss — and why it’s so important to ask
> Uncover "Durable Relationship Energy," a powerful reframe for disillusioned couples
> Gain a new way of thinking about porn, masturbation, and less-than-ideal behavior from higher-desire partners
Roleplay deep dive:
Intimacy Impasses and Desire Dilemmas: Facing the First Session
With this kind of case, your first session is critically important. Learn how to make a significant impact from the very start.Â
> Watch me roleplay working with each partner in the first session of a polarized desire discrepancy case
> Learn a practical tactic for challenging pressure for sex — without alienating your higher-desire client
> Learn how to avoid a key pitfall (missing or marginalizing asexuality) and find an appropriate treatment direction
> Discover the key goal-setting intervention that most therapists are missing — and learn how to identify a useful goal even when there’s a significant impasse between partners
> Come away with an understanding of the heart of a desire discrepancy case, and feel prepared to create a foundation for effective treatment
Plus:
> Full, carefully-edited transcripts for all video materials
> A quick reference guide so you can refresh your memory of the material at a glance
> 2 AASECT CEUs* following successful completion of a learning assessment + a certificate of completion and detailed syllabus
Meet your presenter
My name is Martha Kauppi. As an educator and AASECT-certified sex therapist, I’ve devoted my career to helping therapists, coaches, and other helping professionals build the skills they need to work effectively with sex issues and complicated relationship dynamics.
Recently, I asked thousands of therapists what kinds of cases they struggle with, and desire discrepancy was the top response, by far. I've dug deep, thinking about the underlying reasons therapists struggle with these cases. What I came up with: a process-based reframe to elevate your work, rather than a quick fix that won’t stick. I hope you’ll join me!
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Martha gave me concrete skills and approaches that I have been able to immediately and consistently use in my practice, for which I will always be grateful.
Nanaho Sawano, LCSW—New York and New Jersey
Words cannot express the impact Martha has had on me, not only as a mental health professional, but as a human being. She is, hands down, one of the most influential people in my life; she is a model of human kindness and professional integrity. I've learned greatly about human sexuality and healthy relationships through her razor-sharp intuition and clinical and teaching skills. It is a mighty combination!Â
Vanessa Harvell, LMFT—Los Angeles, California
Martha has an incredible talent to teach complicated material in a digestible way. Every time I have heard Martha present, I have implemented what I have learned in my sessions right away.
Kelly Scharver, Couples Counselor—Virginia
Martha is so generous and welcoming with her information and abundant resources, experience, online seminar leadership, and knowledge.
Dian Rains Allen, Ph.D., MFT, LPCC—Vallejo, California
*This program meets the requirements of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) and is approved for 2 CE credits. These CE credits may be applied toward AASECT certification and renewal of certification.
